17 years of marriage

Here I am on a little adventure to Indy with the hubs, alone! 

After 17 years of marriage and 3 kids later we are getting away for 1 night to go to a Colts game, yes you heard me right, a colts game! It was my Christmas present! 

I don't actually give a hoot about football, but my husband was thinking alone time and he loves football. I would have been happier with the juicer I saw at Bed Bath and Beyond. 

I have an 11 year that would love to go, he lives, eats, and breathes football! 

So what do you do when your husband misses the boat? 

You go! 

His heart was good and he's right, we do not get alone time very often! I may not care about football, but I care about him! 

17 years is a tough place to be.  We are done having kids and the exciting things feel done.  Now we are in the mundane, but how do we get out of that awful place?

  Oh, we love our children more than life itself and I feel so blessed to be homeschooling them.  I love my time with them, but my marriage has to come before the kids.  It's not fair to him that I dance, sing, and laugh with kids all day and when hubby gets home I'm a grouchy bag. 

It's so easy to be mom, but wife is much harder after 17 years.  

We have to stop and recognize that God put us together before the kids. When I worry about the kids being in someone else's car or what if we get in an accident  and don't come home, I have to remember these are Gods children before mine and he will watch over them. I just need to pray! 

So back to my husband, the man I chose before kids were thought of, the man I loved before kids were thought of, I am his partner and I need to show him he is important to me by being at his side!  God made me to be his helper and his lover.  I was created for him.  

So on the road we are! The quest to finding commonality again! 

When your at 17 years and it feels like you have nothing in common or to talk about,  He is heading in one direction and I in another, Thats a scary and very lonely place to be.  Thats  why I need to be at this Colts game! 

Dating, nurturing, listening, and supporting each other is so important at this stage in life, not that it isn't in the beginning, but in the beginning everything is new. Life is exciting and full of adventure.  After 17 years it takes a little more effort and work! Years have gone by fast and aging is a reality, (although I still claim 29!), but the fun does not need to stop! We can still laugh, joke, and date each other! No one says life has to be so serious!  We both have realized we need to lighten up and enjoy each other's company and find commonality again! 

So here's to 17 years of marriage and here's to the Colts! (Next year I'm buying him tickets to a ballet:)

Folks, we had an amazing time! We were able to talk, laugh, shop, and I have to tell you I loved the game!  I loved all the people, the hype, and the atmosphere! I don't think I saw the ball much.  I asked Tommy several times what happened, but it was great spending quality time with my husband! What I have learned is sometimes I need to trust him and even though it may not have been what I would have picked, I would have missed a great opportunity if I chose to complain. 

We talked on the way home and we set a goal to spend time each week talking and catching up with each other. We are committed to making the next 17 years connected!